I just need some advise.  My thirteen is going through something she wont talk to me about anything.  When I ask her she says nothings wrong, but I know there is.  She started doing bad in school.  When I ask her to do something I get the same anwser later.  About a month ago i told her she couldnt go out after school, because she didnt go to school she had atay home sick.  I know when I stayed home sick I didnt go anywhere.  For three hours she srceamed and yell and cryed and just through a fit till i just couldnt stand it anymore and told her to go.  The next time this happened I endup slapping her (then felt like crap and cryed).  She has been hanging out with girls that are two years older and thinks she can do what they do.  And started lying to me.  Ones a virgin and ones not..  The ones thats not is manipulating and has divorce parents that arent there for her.  The father will take off and leave her over the weekend(she's 14).  I've notice that since my daughter started hanging out with her she trys to get away with more.  She get mad when i tell she has to check in and if I tell she cant go it go into her screaming at me.   We live in trailer park so its hard keepong her from the kids.  And I dont want to.  I just want to be able to get along and stop the fighting.  I got her into counseling at school.  They have told me she seems to have low self esteem and thats another one I cant figure out.  I have always told my girls that they are beautiful and that they can be anything that they want.  My daughter is 5'8 has blue eyes  is shaped how girls should be she is slim but not skinny.  She has always like boy clothes which is fine cause girls clothes are to revealing.   When she wheres girls clothes she looks like shes sixteen and that scares me.  I love her so much and just want to keep her as safe as I kin, just with less fighting and screaming.   Oh she is lazy dont want to do anything around the how to help.  I know part of is just growing up but,  Any Any help would be apperciated

I have teenage boys. I work more than 50 hours a week mostly from home running two businesses. My husband will not support any outside help and I am expected to do all of the housework. We give our teens a list of a few things that they must do by Sunday evening. They end up not doing the chores and they are left for me to do. I chase these kids around all weekend following up on the chores that they are responsible for. By Sunday night I am at my wits end and I lose it. My kids are allowed to yell at me and my husband refuses to get involved because I created the problem!!!  My husband is right there and refuses to say anything.

I am told not to worry about it they are teenagers- don't let them get you so upset - if you do you are crazy!!

I am so upset that my husband allows my childeren to yell at me and ignore my requests for help. "
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