I am a first time Mom with twins that are now 17 months old.  My husband and I struggled for several years to have children when I finally got pregnant we were so happy it was twins.  Now I am struggling trying to adjust to this life of taking care of twins.  I am so used to being free and now I am tied down and feel so guitly for feeling this way because my kids are a blessing.  Is there any Mom's out there that feel overwhelmed as I do? 

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What does everyone think of Rosie O'donnell and her decision to leave "The View"?

Personally she gets on my last nerve, and you'd think she would have learned a few things after losing her own talk show, but apparently not. I think Barbara Walters just had enough!

Tell me what you think?

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I'm new to this board, so I may be touching an already 'touched' subject.  As the mother of two Autistic children, I've been pleased to see all the publicity that Autism is finally receiving.  There is always more to learn.  What troubles me is that the future is SO unclear for us.  Is college possible?  What about health insurance for them as adults?  What if something happens to my husband and myself?  Is adult care available?

Since our boys are only 6 and 10, we still try to take things day by day.  As much as I appreciate learning more about Autism in children........what should I expect as they grow?

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We have two big birthdays coming up this summer, In August  my husband will turn 50 and my father will turn 70.  We have all been through surprise parties so I wanted to do something different that would include family and possibly a few friends.   I realize how quickly August will be here and I want to be prepared.  Any suggestions?

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I would like to know if there is a mentoring program in my area for my 19 year old, also if there is  a special needs girl scout troop in my area for my 8 year old.

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 My Daughter ws kidnapped at 17 months by her biological mother. It was the ONLY thing that she could think of that would increase our communication level....And it did.

  It took me 17 months, $32,000 & 12 trips to N.J. to find her.  And all because I let her visit with her mother after she abandoned her.

   (Praise God) I have her back now but,  unfortunantly for us all,I  lost all trust in the mother. I can't/ won't allow the same thng to happen again.

 It will be 1 year that she has been back with me (on the 15th of May). The pain of loss and emotion of reunion are still a fresh wound to me.I am deathly afraid of this happening again. So much that I quit my job to stay at home with her out of fear of not being there in the event that It happens again.

 If you can imagine the pain......................

 I am open for any suggestions or comments.

Single dad.

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My 6 year old son is a bully. We recently discovered that he is also ADD/ADHD. While the meds are helping him at school and with his work his attitude twords others has grown worse. He hits kids to get his way, punches them and throws chairs at them to get his way. His father and I are seperated ( he was controlling and abusive twords me). Recently I was notified from a close friend of his fathers about abuse that been directed twords my son. I can't get any body to help me. 5 reports to CPS and a police report for indangerment to a child all againest his father whom he lives with ( all in a matter of 7 months).  And still no help from the agencies sworn to protect our children.  I can't get any one to understand that his behavior maybe a reflection of his lifestyle. I know that no one can really help me with that, but how do I help my son so he doesn't turn into an even bigger bully or worse a wife beater himself. How do I help him? I am soooo worried about the amount of anger he carries around inside of that little body of his. So much at times I think he is going to explode. He even comes at me physcially. He tells me it's ok to yell curse words at people and to hit them to get what he wants because it's what his dad does to him and to others. How do I break past that thought process, he is already hurting people to get what he wants. He tells me it makes him feel good to be bad and mean to others. It makes him strong to hurt people. HOW CAN I SAVE HIM FROM A LIFE OF SELF DISTRUCTION? He has been physocialigicaly evealuated and found to be extremely depressed. I was told he see's no light in his world it is all black and hopeless. HE IS ONLY 6 !!! I am afraid if this goes on much longer I will lose him all together.

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This is not about parenting (well it could be related).  I noticed in one of the postings that rather than God, G-d was used and am wondering if that was the choice of the writer or the website?

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i have a 12 year  old girl she likes to be on my space alot. i just found out that she says she is 16 years old. she has been talking to a 17 year old boy and he is presuring her to smoke weed with him. i'm not sure yet if they have seen each other in person. i' m going to talk to her today. she also put lies about me that i hit her and punch her and that she hates me. i don't know what to do please help

thank you

a very worried mom

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My ex boyfriend of 9 months just recently contacted me after not talking for the 9 months that we have been apart. We talked about getting back together and I had decided not to because of for the past 4 years that we have been together on and off, he has left us (my boys and I) 5 times for other women. When he leaves, he doesn't try to contact my children. The last time we split up, he was abusive towards me while I was holding our 2 year old son. He now says that he wants visitation rights. I have declined this as I don't know if he will walk away from them again. His current girlfriend is pregnant and has been very childish towards me. She has been trying to get me fired from my job, she has called my utility company and told them I was moving (I caught that before they shut me off), she passes me on the road and honks and makes gestures at me while my children are in the car with me. I have refused to let them be around her. But if he really wants to be a father then my kids have the right to have that. I am afraid of taking the chance that he will walk out on them yet again and put them through the hurt again. I don't know what to do, I have tried talking to him, but he is not pleasant with me since I told him that we would not be getting back together. I don't know what to do. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.

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While,  I  do believe plenty of learning disabilities exist, could it be,  in some cases, we just learn different.  There is this idea of  one way to learn.  We are all different and we all get to the end of the road by taking different routes.   Should we continue putting  labels on everything?    I guess there is nothing wrong with it, kind of like one has blond hair and one has black.   Some of us are better one on one, while others are better in a crowd.  I just think we need to separate "learning disabilities (ex: dyslexia) from differences in learning. 

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We have an 11 year old sixth grader girl who is the oldest of 4.  We are very active with church and our kids go to Catholic school.  We work very hard at faith formation and our oldest daughter has a good heart and has very meaningful faith....  She just happens to be a complete control freak when it comes to her relationships with her parents and siblings.  She gets along great with teachers, friends.....nearly a straight A student in the gifted program at her school, girl scouts and very accomplished athletically and in piano. 

We are at our wits end though with her thirst to get the last word in, always must be right, has to argue over the most foolish little things, is bossy and controlling with her siblings.....  She continually decides even when we forewarn her.... she still has to argue, stomp off and put us in our place.  AND she KNOWS we are angry and we have warned her.....  What in the world can you do to change this kind of personality trait?  We have been working on it for years. 

There have been phases when things get better and it’s not like she is a vile child.  We just know that we cannot allow this kind of behavior and it’s not fair to our 3 other children to be pushed around by her all the time.  And, we are to the point that we don’t like her and we have a hard time being nice and nurturing..... Some times I can’t even look at her I’m so mad.  I KNOW I’m the adult, unconditional love and forgiveness..... I agree with that ultimately, but how do we change this behavior and restore a higher level of tranquility to our home?  We are not looking to make her prefect, but this ongoing anger/control/back talking.....needs to be brought under control.  We have tried all kinds of punishments and rewards and charts and lists and journaling, long talks, crying, hugging, praying....

She has dug such a deep hole.  Its like she has an obsessive need to behave this way.  She knows its wrong and is like an addict. I wish I could change her birth order.  I know being the oldest has a lot to do with it.  Does she need a pychologist?

Thanks for any advice and suggestions.

 

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I have 2 teen boys 14, and 15.  Some of the music they listen to is just garbage, I mean the lyrics and words.  For example one son likes this Slipknot group and its horrible, and the other son listens to some crappy rap.  We only have 1 computer, its a laptop and it stays downstairs so we can monitor, but we can't every second.  They can so quickly download music and I don't even know what it is.  My husband and I are wanting to have them delete the crap that is on the ipods, just the bad stuff, but how do we control what they download?

Help anyone on how to handle this?

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I'm wondering if any parents have talked with their kids about the pressures and cutting that goes on at school.  I'm not talking about kids on drugs, or abused at home, or getting bullied at school.....just every day normal life.

We were talking with our 15 year old son, and found out that just about 60% of the kids in his 2009 class are doing this act of cutting.  Whether they are depressed about girlfriends/boyfriends, friends, grades, home, peer pressure....they are all doing it.  I found out tonight that even my son is doing it.  I aked him where he's cutting since he wears short sleeves etc....and he said upper arm/shoulder area so that when he has on his ROTC uniform, the cuts are not seen.

This breaks my heart, and I'm hoping to get some input from other parents that might have gone through this or are going through it now.  Of course we talked in depth, but I'm still looking for my input, more reasoning.  I will be contacting a counselor for him in hopes that a professional can reiterate what we said to him, and may open up with conversation he may feel uncomfortable speaking to us about.

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My husband and I just got custody of 2 children age 2 and 6. They lost their dad in a car wreck a year and a half ago. Their mother got off on some bad stuff and left them with us. We have not had a little one all the time in 16 years. The kids have no manners or disipline, how can we handle this problem?

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