He can't decide if he's going to be a father or not
Posted by:
je on
April 15, 2007 at
12:29PM EST
My ex boyfriend of 9 months just recently contacted me after not talking for the 9 months that we have been apart. We talked about getting back together and I had decided not to because of for the past 4 years that we have been together on and off, he has left us (my boys and I) 5 times for other women. When he leaves, he doesn't try to contact my children. The last time we split up, he was abusive towards me while I was holding our 2 year old son. He now says that he wants visitation rights. I have declined this as I don't know if he will walk away from them again. His current girlfriend is pregnant and has been very childish towards me. She has been trying to get me fired from my job, she has called my utility company and told them I was moving (I caught that before they shut me off), she passes me on the road and honks and makes gestures at me while my children are in the car with me. I have refused to let them be around her. But if he really wants to be a father then my kids have the right to have that. I am afraid of taking the chance that he will walk out on them yet again and put them through the hurt again. I don't know what to do, I have tried talking to him, but he is not pleasant with me since I told him that we would not be getting back together. I don't know what to do. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.
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Posted by: Daisy on April 18, 2007 10:23AM EST
I don't think getting back together with this guy is the such a good idea , and since you have physical custody of the kids I would let HIM get the lawyer if he's really interested in pursuing visitation. Chances are he really doesn't have that much of an interest in them anyway. If he shows he does want to be a part of their lives( by pursuing visitation through a lawyer), then maybe the two of you can work something out.
As far as the girlfriend is concerned, I would contact the police and get a restraining order for harassment or something. At least you would have something on record, and could also keep a diary of the times when she has bothered you and your kids.
I don't know if this helps, but good luck.
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Posted by: Lily on April 16, 2007 9:45AM EST
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