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My daughter is BOY CRAZY

Posted by: Sarita Stuart on February 4, 2008 at 3:29PM EST

My daughter is 12 years old and in the 6th grade. She is so boy crazy I can't stand it. I have told her she can not have a boy friend until she is atleast 16 years old. Every time I turn around she is calling a boy her "boyfriend". She is the youngest of 5 children but definately my strongest willed child! She lies all the time about anything whether its small or big. Taking things away from her doesn't work very well, she just finds other things to occupy her time while she is grounded from that (mainly her cell phone). What happened to the sweet innocent youth!! Respect, trust, helpfulness to others without getting something is return. Our children are our future, we need to find a solution to what is ruining our kids today.

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Posted by: lise on March 7, 2008 8:18PM EST

Can your older siblings be of any guidance for her. Suggest to having "friend boys" is more suitable - that is friends that are boys. Don't let her think you don't want her hanging around boys. I got this from my sister who has 3 girls. It did work for her. Boys can be good friends too.

Posted by: JAJ on February 10, 2008 10:07AM EST

1) Take away her cell phone and computer access...these are privelages, not rights.
2) More importantly. Does she have other things outside of school to keep her busy and engaged - something that she values and gives her a sense of accomplishment and sense of pride? I think kids who don't have a passion for something (music, sports, whatever) will fill their time by looking for approval and a sense of who they are through others. All of my 13 year old daughter's friends who are boy crazy seem to be basically insecure and are looking for some sense of self-worth or validation through a "boyfriend". Good Luck.

Posted by: sj on February 5, 2008 8:49AM EST

I feel lucky that my 7th grade daughter is still not into the boy thing! I know it is coming, but her friends at school tend to hang out in groups, instead of as couples. I am amazed at the parents who sort of sanction the "boyfriend, girlfriend" label at such a young age. There is plenty of time for that later.

Just hang in there and keep paying attention! I would think that by the 5th child you are a little worn out, but you can't let your guard down now!

Posted by: Sue F. on February 4, 2008 10:45PM EST

It seems like our kids are growing up faster than our generation in some respects, but not growing up at all in other respects. It's very difficult to counter-balance all the outside influences they have today. I would imagine in addition to all of those outside influences, your daughter probably sees her older brothers and sisters having relationships and she wants to imitate them as a way of saying she's as big as they are. I was the youngest of three and certainly felt as if I could do anything my older siblings could (only better!). Stick to your guns on the dating issue and hopefully this will be a phase she's just passing through.