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Teenage FAD - Cutting!
Posted by: BB on April 8, 2007 at 12:21AM EST

I'm wondering if any parents have talked with their kids about the pressures and cutting that goes on at school.  I'm not talking about kids on drugs, or abused at home, or getting bullied at school.....just every day normal life.

We were talking with our 15 year old son, and found out that just about 60% of the kids in his 2009 class are doing this act of cutting.  Whether they are depressed about girlfriends/boyfriends, friends, grades, home, peer pressure....they are all doing it.  I found out tonight that even my son is doing it.  I aked him where he's cutting since he wears short sleeves etc....and he said upper arm/shoulder area so that when he has on his ROTC uniform, the cuts are not seen.

This breaks my heart, and I'm hoping to get some input from other parents that might have gone through this or are going through it now.  Of course we talked in depth, but I'm still looking for my input, more reasoning.  I will be contacting a counselor for him in hopes that a professional can reiterate what we said to him, and may open up with conversation he may feel uncomfortable speaking to us about.

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Posted by: Jessica Hampton on May 1, 2007 7:57PM EST
Hey I am really sorry about your son. I am 14 and just got help for cutting. I know form experience to just elimate yelling and tension at home and just get involved in his school. And have family descisions. But don't pressure him into telling you why he does it, It caused me to do it more.



Posted by: Sadie on April 11, 2007 9:52AM EST
BB,
I am sorry for the struggles your son is going through. I have read alot about cutting and while it does seem so extreme, for some reason, kids find it to be an escape from the pain they feel on the inside. I hope that the counselor you choose helps your son find healthier ways to deal with his feelings. You sound like a great mom who only wants the best for her child. Good luck to you and your son.

Posted by: juff on April 10, 2007 8:01AM EST
Hi BB,

I feel for what you are going through and hope that the counseling gets some results. I hope other community members who are experiencing your same pain and situation will comment and give advice. I have seen "The Enemy Inside" and thought it was excellent. It is a great tool to watch with your son and then discuss. He won't feel threatened by you because you will simply be discussing the video.

My children are younger so this is not an issue we deal with directly. I was asking my neices (17 and 19) about cutting and they both knew of kids that were doing it. What a tragedy! I wish you the best of luck in getting this under control.

Posted by: Bruce on April 9, 2007 1:14PM EST
Hi BB,
and my best wishes to you and your family, as you struggle with your son's issues.

I wanted you to know that Connect With Kids has produced a documentary on the issue of teenagers and cutting, called The Enemy Inside.
(http://www.connectwithkids.com/products/theenemyinside.shtml)

It offers more information on the issue - as well as ways parents and children can cope.
Good luck!

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