teens
Posted by:
Christine Blackman on
July 16, 2007 at
4:40PM EST
I have a teenage daughter that seems to lie over things that are not necessary to lie about. She will ask can she go off with one person and end up going off with someone different. For example, if she is at her friends she will call and ask me can she go off, I may say yes as long as she is where she says she's going to be and she is home when she says. Last week she asked about having someone over (my nephew, b/c he likes her friend and they were at the friends). We told them no, you are suppose to be working and there is not an adult there so we don't want any company there when there is no adult present. They said ok, then they had him come pick them up and went back to his house with his parents out of town (he was suppose to be at his grandmothers and, he wasn't). We drilled these kids for over 2hrs. and they continued to deny that he had picked them up. When they figured out we already were putting the pieces together, they told us. The sad part is that they lied to three adults even after several hours of talking to them. I will be glad to hear any suggestions from parents/ teenagers that have pulled this and now realize lying will get you no where. Also if anyone has advise on teenagers that try drinking and try smoking cigarettes. I don't know what else to try with this teenager. Also she wants to go a private Christian school, since she has given me so many problems I don't know if I should pay for this kind school, If it's going to help then I don't mind but, if I'm just wasting my time, money and energy then it's a waste. This child has a lot going for her, she has a 99% chance of getting a full ride to college and, if she doesn't get her life in order she is going to loose this opportunity. Thanks,
Christine
(3) Answers
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Coming from a teenage perspective, I used to be the same way. I always thought my mom was going to yell at me if I did something wrong so I would lie about it. However, over the years she has become much more understanding and patient with me. Not only to I barely ever lie to her anymore but I feel no need to "rebel" or whatever goes on in the teenage mind. If you parents are screaming and yelling at you and taking away your privileges, it makes you so angry with them and want to rebel. If they are understanding and patient with you, there is no need to rebel or lie to them.
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Posted by: Sadie on July 18, 2007 10:59AM EST
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Posted by: Daisy on July 18, 2007 9:46AM EST
It is something we still laugh about to this day, 25 years later. We both attended Catholic high school, and Catholic colleges. My friend is now a religion teacher in La. and teaches 5th and 6th grade.
She uses these stories as lessons for her kids. At least you know what to expect from your child and you kept hammering away at them. A lot of parents would have believed the first lie and left it at that.
If I have learned anything, it's that teens will try anything, and then try to get away with it. Keep up the good work policing their activities.
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