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Posted by: Patty McLaughlin on April 7, 2007 at 8:01PM EST

My husband and I just got custody of 2 children age 2 and 6. They lost their dad in a car wreck a year and a half ago. Their mother got off on some bad stuff and left them with us. We have not had a little one all the time in 16 years. The kids have no manners or disipline, how can we handle this problem?

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Posted by: juff on April 11, 2007 10:55AM EST

First of all, how wonderful of you to give these young children a home and a chance for a good life! Saying you are overwhelmed is putting it mildly I am sure. Hug them as much as you can. Try to network with some other mothers with similar age children. A counselor, possibly at a church would be very helpful in setting some guidelines. I assume the 6 year old is in school or will be starting school in the Fall. I would make sure that you speak to his/her principal and find the perfect nurturing teacher due to his/her unique situation. I bet if you trust yourself, a lot of your motherly instincts will naturally reappear!!

Posted by: Sadie on April 11, 2007 10:21AM EST

While there may be some rough times ahead, keep in mind what these children have been through in their short lives. With your love and support, they will begin to adjust to their new home and rules. They are so very lucky to have you!

Posted by: Kathy on April 10, 2007 9:46AM EST

Fortunately the children are young enough to ajust to your set of rules. It would be great if you could find a family counselor (get good recommendations) to help mediate in these first couple of years. Bless you for giving these children a home. Try not to get overwhelmed by taking it one day at a time.