Recently my husband's daughter's school sent a report from two of her classes that she's failing those two classes. Anyone that knows Rachel and has spent any time with her knows that she's not only pretty, but very intelligent - so the failing of two classes isn't about it being too hard. In the last several years her grades have begun to plummet frightfully, all the while maintaining her popularity and social standing. This last issue has opened a can of worms for me because that evening he sat her down for about a half hour and told her how it was going to be from now on. For a while she would come directly home from school without friends and put her nose into the school books and homework, no going out and no one coming to visit. Two days later something important came up and she was back to doing what she did before he laid down some legit bounderies. He never once told her NO and even okay'd her staying out and having friends over. I questioned whether this was an appropriate choice on his account and he said there was nothing he could do but let her do it. This has been going on for four years now in which time I have tried to be strong and supportive of my husband and to stand by his side and to set bounderies, all of which get no support from my husband and certainly not from the girl. Does anyone have anything of real help to offer? I am at my wits end here and feeling like this is all so hopeless. How can I help the dad, my husband, to learn how to set and maintain proper bounderies???

Thanks ~ San