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How Students Have Changed
Posted by: Charlie on December 15, 2007 at 5:18PM EST

How easy it used to be to simply have an interesting set of lesson plans, establish classroom rules and then move on to teaching. The student of today many times comes from a single parent home with little or no rules established there. Television or video games become their baby-sitters, so that parents can have some time to themselves. These children do not know their fairy tales or childhood stories because no one spends time at home to read to them. Parents or guardians schedule too much for these children so that children don't learn to manage time or ever learn how to problem solve. Every problem is solved for the child at home to avoid too much stress or in an effort to show love.

This same child appears in the classroom hungry for personal one-on-one attention that they don't get at home. They will get attention whether it be positive or negative. From a home of "anything goes" to your classroom of rules they come kicking and fighting all the way. Unable to employ any critical thinking skills they resort to laziness to try to avoid school work for as long as they can get away with it. Without any new teacher mentor available, the Principal or Vice Principal appear in your room to see how it's going and see mayhem unleased and simply glare at you as if you had something to do with how these little cherubs act.

Class management books address a child that came from a different time, surely not today, where children were properly treated and loved at home with a two-parent family where one of the parents did not work and was at home with the children to raise them carefully and with love. Because the role of authority figures have changed, because many families do not attend church regularly and get no moral or behavioral training or develop a proper conscience to know right from wrong, many of the times, the child that appears in the classroom today is a loud, demanding, self-interested little terror who has had no discipline, no real caring and no real direction.

Now the teacher must make up for everything that was missing at home in addition to try to get anything educational done in the classroom. Somehow educational standards have to be met by certain times of the year and increasing amounts of testing must be implemented at the beginning and end of each quarter. How teaching has changed and how the student of today has changed. To be an educator today is an enormous task that no one can prepare you for. To try to make a positive difference in the lives of children is more difficult than ever, because of how students have changed.

(4) Comments
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Posted by: Charlie on December 23, 2007 5:34PM EST
I think you see what I mean. It is a difficult time with students having no moral base to work from, no sense of values and only self-concerns. My 4th graders are like that too. They are always picking on each other, tattling, being loud, anything to get attention be it good or bad actions to get the attention. Check with your church to see if they have their own school, if not hunt one down. It's your only hope.

Posted by: Sillyof on December 23, 2007 4:35AM EST
Thanks for sharing. I am frustrated with my 14 year old's high school. We live in a rural area where the high school is the only option. There are no private schools in the community beyond 8th grade. Initially, I totally blamed the teachers/staff for lack of control. I am finding now that there are serious issues with most of the kids. There is no such thing as mutual respect. The kids will do anything for attention. I can imagine that it is impossible to teach, with all of the distractions. I don't feel safe when I visit the school. I've stopped attending games and after school activities, because you never know what to expect. I feel guilty for sending my child to this high school. I am concerned about what she is not being taught. When we do attend programs, I can not hear because the kids talk, laugh, & scream throughout the program. The biannual Debutante Cortilion has turned into evening of outbursts and cheering. I don't know what to do or say. I am praying for an answer. I know that I won't make it another 3 years in this environment. I still can not believe that we have lost control of our highschool. What do I do? People who can afford and have similiar concerns, commute their kids to private schools, almost 30 - 40 miles away (Tuition = $6,000 yrly). I know that this would be a tremendous hardship and struggle for my family. I am already working 1.5 jobs. I am truly worried. Worst, my daughter has now been stereotyped as a complainer, crybaby and whiner. I know very little about homeshooling and I'm honestly not interested in homeschooling.

Posted by: sj on December 19, 2007 10:15AM EST
Hey Charlie-- I bet you are not the only teacher that experiences this frustration. As a society, we have dropped our expectations and standards for our children-- either in our own self interest or in an attempt to "protect" our kids. They are going to have a rough time as adults, and in the end they will blame their parents. Someone forgot to tell us that "Parent" is a verb, as well as a noun. And our kids can't learn what the parts of speech are because they have no respect for authority.

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