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50th Wedding Anniversary

Posted by: Jax on June 30, 2007 at 12:11PM EST

I just went to Virginia for my grandparent's 50th wedding anniversary party. It was wonderful to celebrate this monumental day with them. They have been a great example for me that being married for 50 years is possible. Also, it was wonderful for all of their friends to be there. My uncle put together a slide show of pictures throughout their life. They throughly enjoyed it, and so did the guests. It was a great reminder of where they came from and gave them courage to grow old together. When you hear in the news that this person is getting divorced and that person is getting divorced, it gets discouraging. I think the problem is that many people go into marriage thinking that it will be easy and difficult struggles won't occur.

If two people love each other enough, they can get through anything. Yes, there will be disagreements, but nothing that you can't solve together. There's this great quote: "I love you, but I don't like you right now." It reminds me that loving someone surpasses the superficial liking stage. When you love someone, you give your whole heart and soul to him/her. You give your whole life and being, and if it means dying for that person--you'd do it in a heartbeat. However, when you like someone, you enjoy their company, but you might lose touch and it just doesn't matter. Every marriage is going to have it's ups and downs, but it's the people who stick together and love each other unconditionally that make it work.

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Posted by: Ginger on July 11, 2007 10:23AM EST

Marriage is both extremely fulfilling and challenging. I agree that if the two people have the same outlook and goals, they can make it look easy! But I grew up thinking if you just loved someone enough you could make anything work. Unfortunately, that's not true. The person you love also has to love himself enough to take care of himself. I am divorced now but my ex is one of my dearest friends. It took separating for him to become healthier, and I am so glad for him and also for our son. Truly it is a much, much better relationship all the way around and I feel incredibly blessed. So, while our family doesn't look "traditional," I would venture to say it is as healthy and happy as any two-parent family. One word of caution: when you love someone, you don't have to give up your whole life to him/her. Instead, you keep your independence while offering your love, support, friendship, caring to your spouse. I think that's an important thing we as adults need to teach our children... stay true to yourself; have your own life that you bring to your marriage.

Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker on July 1, 2007 9:29PM EST

I've been married 3 times, however, my daughter has been married 20 years and I'm happy to say she will probably make 50 or more years of marriage. Your right, there are good and bad times, and Sherry and Bill work through them as a family. They have seven children and now a grandchild. I suggest she read and see what she can look forward too. Heres to 60 years for your grandparents.

Regards, Grammy http://grammology.com