I read an interesting and sad post on a blog yesterday.  The women was going through divorce and she was lamenting how she'd been manipulated by her husband to keep her children away from her family.

She was angry and sad that so much time had passed and her kids and herself had been deprived of their love and attention. 

My advice as I so freely give it. You can't change what you've done..the past is the past.  However, you can  improve today and your future.  Make better the new cycle..   There is no perfect person on  this earth.  As we  journey through life we make many mistakes.  Our mission  learn from each other, and improve from your past.

As many of us know, a controlling, abusive husband, will often isolate his wife and children from family. This allows them more control and  instills fear and dependence on the husband.  I was  enlightened by her being able to break out of the pattern and empowered by her will to share her story.  Therefore making it better and easier for other women and children to see where she was and how she'd come out of the darkness into the light.

In my 61 years on this earth..there is no bond better then a  strong family connection.  You will find they are there day and night, whenever you ask.  Share the value of a family with your children.  Discuss your fears and thoughts with your family.  Build a healthy relationship together.  Talking about what you wish to accomplish in life and how you can help and support each other  Yes, family can sometimes be management intense.  However, the benefits of knowing you have a support system if you ever need it, far outweigh the times when you are required to help.  In addition, I've found helping someone you love can feel pretty darn good.

See if you know what I mean, offer to be there for someone in your family.  Even if they don't currently need anything.  Just let them know you love them and will help whenever needed. The good feeling you have may just surprise you..Good luck..just do it..

My best,
Dorothy from grammolgy
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