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Gandchildren for the weekend church, or no church?

Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker on September 5, 2007 at 2:02AM EST

Noah age 4 and William age 12 will be visiting this weekend. Joe and I have already made a list for food and snacks to buy..and what we might do for the weekend.

Most of the time spent with the kids is fun..However, we do try to have them clean up and keep things tidy, after we finish playing with a toy or a game.

Because we will have the children on Sunday I have a question. Their parents generally go to church as a family, when grandparents keep their grandchildren do you think it's our responsibility to take them to church in the parents absence? By the way, I don't have an opinion yet..your going to help me have one....thank you..

Dorothy from grammology
http://grammology.com

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Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker on September 15, 2007 10:17PM EST

It's very difficult to break old habits. My mom brought us up, in fear of God and with guilt. I use to resent the way she brought us up. Now at 61, I've noticed unless you fear consequences you have nothing to loose and will do a lot of things you otherwise would not. Mom was right and I was wrong.
Feeling guilty when you miss church is not such a bad thing either. It can be considered motivation..

Thanks for the thoughts.

Dorothy from grammology

Posted by: Krisi on September 14, 2007 9:29PM EST

I know I am late in responding. Sorry. I certainly don't feel it is your responsibility. However, if my parents had my kids and were willing to take them to church (knowing that it was very important to me and my husband), I would greatly appreciate it. I think it also shows your grandkids that you support Mom and Dad's decisions. One last comment, God is a merciful, loving, forgiving God. So if you believe in Jesus and have accepted Him, you do not need to live in fear of God.

Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker on September 7, 2007 11:10PM EST

Anna, thanks for your comments. This is a hard one I must subconsciously be feeling guilty about church. I've been praying a lot and I think I don't want God to be mad at me..can you believe that even at 61..the guilt is strong. So maybe it's not about the grandchildren, maybe it's me? Go figure....
Fear of God and guilt. are where I come from..and it stays forever....
Thanks everyone...
Dorothy from grammology
http://grammology.com

Posted by: anna on September 6, 2007 4:46AM EST

i think you should do what you normally do . if you go to church on sundays then take them , if you dont then you dont have to . i dont think you "have to " do anything . just be their grandparents :) they will know you for who you are :)

Posted by: Dorothy Stahlnecker on September 5, 2007 10:54PM EST

Thanks for the advise. We'll go to church. It has great facilities for both our grandchildren.

I appreciate your comments and they make sense.

Dorothy from grammology
http://grammology.com

Posted by: sj on September 5, 2007 12:54PM EST

I agree-- if it is a normal part of your routine, then that is something that they can appreciate about you. I had a thought about the older boy-- because teens and tweens like their groups. I don't know if you live close enough to go to their regular church, but my kids like to go to their youth group at church, and I love having that extra dose of positive reinforcement that they get there! It's just a thought!

Posted by: Moderator on September 5, 2007 9:15AM EST

I think that if you go to church as a regular part of your routine, then you take them! (What better time to show them off!!) If not, I think it is fine not too unless their parents have requested that you do.