Posted by: Eric on June 26, 2007 12:43PM EST Most of my guy friends don't really care if they are invited to something, but they do care if I am honest with them or not. So I choose to be honest with most of my friends, unless I have to tell a very sensitive friend. Then I try and cater to his or her feelings.

Posted by: Chandler DeWitt on June 26, 2007 9:44AM EST This is not an easy situation. I always try to tell my friends the truth, but if I think it will really hurt their feelings, sometimes i will tell a little white lie. I do feel that the best thing to do is just tell the truth and hope that your friend will understand. I realize that you can't have everyone to a party, and these situations don't bother me that much. This stuff happens all the time and it is always hard to decide whether or not to tell your friend the truth.

Posted by: Ginger on June 25, 2007 11:06AM EST Yep, this is a hard situation. The thing is, you have no control over who is invited to a party, or if your friend's feelings will be hurt. "I already have plans" seems good; and then if she asks, you might tell about the party. Then she'd know you were trying to spare her feelings ... Whitney is right -- everyone can't be invited to everything. And I like Krisi's point, too -- you don't want to start a habit, even white lies (not that you would). But I also think that we don't have to say everything we think as part of "always telling the truth." It's certainly a great balance to learn to be diplomatic, even when delivering bad news.

Posted by: Krisi on June 23, 2007 12:58AM EST I know you may not value a Mother's opinion... but, I used to tell little white lies at your age and then it became easy for those to grow into bigger and bigger lies. It really is true that good or bad, habits tend to snowball over time. I am proud to say that after learning the hard way... feeling very embarrassed everytime I'd get caught, even telling the smallest of lies (the little white ones), that for years now, I have been determined that I will never lie again! It feels good to know that I am a trustworthy person! I don't even tell "partial truths" because that too can sorta be like a lie and make you feel bad... or embarrassed. Good luck to you and remember, a lie is a lie, big or little.

Posted by: Jax on June 21, 2007 1:01PM EST I like my friends to tell me the truth, but in this situation I might have rather had a 'white lie' because my feelings would have been hurt if I wasn't invited to the party. However, I like whitney's idea about telling her ' I'm sorry, I already had plans.' I would avoid lying as much as possible because you never know when it's going to come back to you. If your friend finds out, she might be more mad that you lied to her than the fact that she didn't get invited to the other friend's party. Go with Whitney's idea because it's the truth and she doesn't need to know more information that that.

Posted by: Whitney Hagan on June 21, 2007 12:39PM EST This is a tough situation. I always try to tell my friends the truth because I would want them to tell me the truth. I personally don't get my feelings hurt in situations like that. I understand that you can't invite everyone to everything. I would try to make sure that the friend I was talking to didn't care. If she was really sensitive, then I might just tell her "I'm sorry I already made plans". I don't know this kind of drama comes up ALL the time in high school. I just think the best advice is to be honest that way you don't have to feel guilty.