I've been in a very friendly divorce for about two years and have what is probably a pretty typical arrangement with my son's dad: he has him every Wednesday and every other weekend. Now, I've been known to tell my married girlfriends that they should request one night off a week -- it's not actually the night that's so inviting, it's actually having one morning a week where you are not responsible for making breafast, retrieving uniforms, ensuring backpacks are packed and homework is worked, projects are ready and after school schedules are sychronized. I admit it, I liked that one morning free each week.
But for the past two week's my son's dad has been out of the country, and I must say I have LOVED having him with me all week and all weekends. There is something about the continuity, the seeing my son continuously without an interruption to the week, the not having to reconnect when he gets back, or make plans on every day but Wednesday -- I know it doesn't seem like much and I would never have guessed it would make a difference until I experienced it for myself. I think it may even be less stressful for my son, although he adores his dad and can't wait to see him ... there's just been an ease to his personality and a go with the flow attitude that I don't always see. I have heard of couples where the parents actually switch locations, not the kids, and I can see why that might work ... anyway, just thought I'd put this out there to see what anyone else might be experiencing.
I've got another question for ya'll about preteens and that whole hormone and curiousity thing, but I'll save that for next time!
