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Teen Jealousy

Posted by: Den on October 3, 2008 at 8:55AM EST

My 16-yr. old daughter is VERY loyal to her friends, especially her BFF. Lately, her BFF has been focusing more of her attention on a boy who she enjoys being around. Consequently, my daughter feels somewhat abandoned. I try to remind her that she has lots of other friends but that 's not what she wants to hear. I believe my daughter is hoping that her BFF will give up this boy and spend all her free time with my daughter like she did in the past. But I think my daughter's possessiveness will drive a wedge between herself and her BFF. How do I help her cope with the inevitable? Thanks!

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Posted by: sj on October 21, 2008 12:17PM EST

I personally think that this is one of those times that experience is the best teacher. The hard part is not saying "I told you so" afterwards. Until your daughter has a boyfriend of her own she can't understand why a good friend would choose the boy over their friendship. And learning to be loyal enough to someone to let them have their own life is a thing that some people never learn-- you have to give people a little breathing room in any relationship. If you can talk to your daughter w/out sounding preachy and parental, maybe nuggets of your wisdom will get through! Good luck!